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If someone were to ask you “Are your living the life of your dreams?” If you’re like most people you would respond with a “NO!” Or a version of no that goes something like - well if I didn’t have THESE kids or THIS husband or THAT past - or if I was only a little smarter or better looking - or any number of other circumstances that they believe are the reasons for them not having the life of their dreams. The saddest version of no is when the person has become so resigned and cynical that they can’t even imagine things any other way. They say things like “no one lives the life of their dreams” or “no-one is happy” or “it’s just not possible” or “I gave up on that dream years ago.” The point is most people blame something outside of themselves for them not having the life of their dreams. It’s something they want but they don’t see how they can have it because they believe their CIRCUMSTANCES are actually real.
Looking at most people’s lives there are patterns of behavior. Week to week, month to month, hour to hour people do the same things. These behaviors get repeated over and over and if you were to ask them why they are doing those things they’ll tell you “Because that’s how I’ve always done them.” Or “That’s just the way there supposed to be done.” Patterns like: get up go to work send the kids to school, get home watch TV, etc.
So let’s analyze for a second. When someone tells you they are doing something because that is they way they’ve always done it, so what is controlling that action? If you look closely, you can see that it is the past.
The past is dictating their current action. Can you see that if you live your life from “that is the way I’ve always done it” that you are trapped in a cycle, doomed to keep repeating what you’ve always done over and over? In that cycle there is no room for anything different. And if you aren’t living the life of your dreams now you won’t ever. Pretty depressing, huh?
That is where self improvement courses come into the picture. What these courses do is disrupt those patterns of behavior. Most courses do this by pointing out the patterns as patterns. And once you see them for what they are you have a choice to behave as you have always behaved or change course and do something new. Sometimes it can be scary to do something new. And sometimes that something new doesn’t get you what you want. But the next time the same situation comes up, you then have another choice and can try something new and this time it might work.
Being free from the past gives all kinds of new openings. These new openings allow you to begin to ask the question “Since I am now free, what could my life look like?” or to begin asking the question “How good do I want it?” Or “What would the life of my dreams look like anyway?” Once you start to have openings like these you can then start writing down different action to take that will get you closer to the life of your dreams.
I say write it down because you have to disrupt the patterns. They are very strong. When you begin to live your life having your actions given from the life your dreams versus the past, you are now living life on your terms. You are the boss, not the patterns. But the patterns want to control you and they will put up all kinds of resistance. They will lie and tell you to be afraid, tell you it won’t work, make fun of you etc. All to keep you comfortable, safe and under their control.
By writing your actions down and scheduling yourself you are saying “This is the life I want and these are the actions to take that are consistent with that.” Any other actions that you take that are not what you say are past based and not consistent with that future life of your dreams. Of course you schedule fun time and relaxation time. I doubt the life of your dreams would be all work!
When you schedule inside this new paradigm you will want to schedule for accomplishments. We all resist to do’s, and you don’t want to be resisting the life of your dreams. So to avoid this, schedule your calendar full of accomplishments. Don’t schedule “go to the grocery”, schedule “I have had a wonderful time picking up the nourishment for my family creating the building blocks of the body I want.” Which one of those two is more inspiring? Scheduling from accomplishment is a skill you can learn in a self improvement course. The components are put in the past tense as if it has already been done and write it as something that you have accomplished already. Another example would be “I have had a wonderful afternoon driving with my children home from school” versus “pick up kids form school.” See www.missioncontrol.com for more details on scheduling for the life of your dreams and scheduling from accomplishment.
Taking these types of courses will have you see that you can have the life of your dreams and will have you see that it is the context that you hold everything in your life that determines the quality of your life. I will be discussing context versus content in another blog. But for now I think you can now see the value of self improvement courses, and how they can help you begin the process of living the life of your dreams.
About the Author: Chris Omeltschenko is a dentist in the Cincinnati area who is a big advocate of self improvement courses and people living the lives of their dreams. Owning a business is a big part of that and he offers help for people looking to work from home. Check our his blog at www.ChrisOmeltschenko.blogspot.com
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